Day #15: Find Support & Get Excited!

From the Orange Rhino:

Good morningish! I am sorry for the delayed email. I have completely pulled my back out and am just getting out of bed as I have been in so much pain. How have I been able to stay in bed so long? Support from my husband! How was I able to get through one year without yelling? Support from friends, my husband, my kids and The Orange Rhino Community. I struggle with asking for help but oh it is often needed! Tomorrow we start the next phase of this project and I want to make sure you have support to yell less! I love all the goals you have shared and I will do my best to support you by sending hopefully inspiring emails from now until the end of our 30 Days but I believe you will be in an even better place with a support network beyond those emails.

TODAY’s THOUGHTs:

“Surround yourself only with people who are going to lift you higher.” ~Oprah Winfrey

 “You can make it, but it’s easier if you don’t have to do it alone.” ~Betty Ford

TODAY’s ACTIONs:

1. Create your support network. I suggest you find the following people:

(a)           Pep Talker: The person you can call when you want to quit and he/she will always tell you not to, that you can do it. This is hubby’s job. Also best friends, mom, minister perhaps?

(b)           The Texter/Tweeter: The person (people) who are attached to their phone and you can reach out to whenever you have the urge to yell. Choose people you know will reply ASAP with a supportive “you can do it!”

(c)            The Children! Yes, I told my kiddos my plan and they help me immensely by saying “Orange Rhino” when I am getting testy!

(d)           The Orange Rhino Facebook Community: Good news, we’re already here! Post on the timeline – ask for support and give it too!

These people do not have to be non-yellers, they just need to be supportive of you and your commitment. I will do my best to continue to support you all but I am learning that I am not superwoman and that there are only 24 hours in the day!

2. Tell your support network your goal and your desire for them to help. This will make the goal more real and will hopefully inspire them to help you!

3. Decide how you are going to VISUALLY chart your success.
Seeing my counter on my blog go up/down and posting on Facebook every night about my success kept me going. What will you do? Put orange m&ms in a jar for every moment or day achieved? Color in days on a calendar orange or mark them with orange hearts? Put one orange post it note on the wall for each moment of success? Buy orange helium balloons that you pop when you succeed? Place orange stickers on a chart? Put a dollar in an orange jar towards a manicure or an orange necklace? Whatever you do, get creative and make sure you place your “goal counter” somewhere highly visible and motivational.

4. GET EXCITED! Tomorrow is the day! You have done a lot of hard work these two weeks. A lot of hard work. I think you are ready to stop preparing and start doing! Get pumped up by reading the posts from Day 1 here knowing that those moments are the past – that those moments are your catapult to change! http://theorangerhino.com/30daychallenge/2013/02/25/day-1-catapulting-to-change/

And reading positive affirmations here that you CAN DO THIS! You can love with kindness, love with patience.
http://theorangerhino.com/30daychallenge/2013/03/06/day-10-believe-that-you-can-change/

Learning to yell less is hard BUT I am telling you, and as many of you have already discovered, it feels awesome when you have a successful moment of not yelling. And then when you have two or three or four. So yes, get excited because the best feelings are coming!