Good morning!
I continued to be amazed by the enthusiasm and passion you
are all putting into this. It’s wonderful. I know some of you are also feeling
overwhelmed still. I want to remind you that what I write in these emails for
thoughts and actions are there for you to decide what to do with. You do not
have to post in the blogs at night; if it is stressful for you to find the
time, let it go. The last thing you need is more stress. That said, if your
plate is very full and you are enjoying the emails and wish you could do more
of what I write, then just read along. I think you’ll be surprised how just
having some of these thoughts in the back of your mind helps!
Today we continue to track triggers. Why? 1) Just in case
you haven’t had a chance to yet! 2) Every day children are awesome in that they
push different buttons! And 3) You’ll start to see which triggers pop up the
most. Today though, I am going to push you to look even deeper. I am going to
push you to get uncomfortable. There is a quote that I can’t find but it goes
something like “it’s when you push yourself out of your comfort zone that
the extraordinary happens.” So, let’s get uncomfortable!!!
THOUGHT
of the DAY
“If there is anything that we wish to change in the child,
we should first examine it and see whether it is not something that could
better be changed in ourselves.” ~ Carl Jung
ACTIONS
of the DAY:
Continue to track your triggers and dig deep. Post your
thoughts from digging deep here:
password: icanyellless
I suggest that when tracking your triggers, when you write
down why you yelled, that you focus on how you were feeling at the moment. Some
questions to ask yourself:
- Are they really acting “bad” or am I just in a really bad mood?
- Am I happy at this moment or sad, frustrated, stressed, anxious?
- Did I have a fight with someone lately?
- Is my to-do list overwhelming me today?
- Am I the problem right now???
- to understand your role in the situation
- to become aware of your need to take ownership of your behavior
- to acknowledge any crap in your life that really brings you down
Good Luck!
The Orange Rhino
I feel sad to see that I have so many triggers, but that's the part I feel was given to me as my life's burden and challenge; it's part of me, so I can now decide to just accept that. I am so glad to discover that the yelling part is all me, not other people doing it TO me (i.e. the kids).
ReplyDeleteI can and wish to stay in control regardless of their misbehavior. It would be so much better for all of us if I would stay in control. That is the first step. The next step is discovering how to teach them without wishing to simply force them to do what I want...but that is also a learn-as-you-go kind of thing. No need to expect perfection here.
I hear you Jenna! I have a lot of triggers too. I think I get easily annoyed and frustrated. There are still highs and lows!
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