Day #14: What's Your Yelling-Less Goal?

From the Orange Rhino:

Good morning! Before we talk goals, I just wanted to say thank you. Your trusting me (just a mom) to share what I have learned is motivating me to work hard and think about how I didn’t yell and how I stay that way. And your comments, well, they have me thinking and are keeping me real. I have had a tough go at it since this project started and you all are keeping me focused on my goal. Thank you so much.

Now, I know many of you signed up for these emails to get support for not yelling for 30 days. My intention, however, was to help you prepare for not yelling so that when our 30 day project is up, you have the confidence to keep on yelling less. Tomorrow is our last day of preparation. Then we are officially going to take all the lessons learned from triggers, all our positive affirmations, all our “don’t worry” statements and everything else and start yelling less. We will have 16 days of yelling less but that doesn’t mean that you need to go sixteen 24-hour days without yelling. I have learned that everyone is motivated by different degrees of yelling less so everyone needs to have their OWN goal.

TODAY’s THOUGHTs:

“To live is to choose. But to choose well, you must know who you are and what you stand for, where you want to go and why you want to get there.” ~Kofi Annan

 You have all chosen well, you have all thought about the moment about why you want to change and what you stand for, but now it is time to specify where you want to go.

“If you can find a path with no obstacles, it probably doesn't lead anywhere.” ~Frank A. Clark

“Any person who selects a goal in life which can be fully achieved, has already defined his own limitations” ~Cavett Roberts

As you think about your goal today, remember these quotes. Goal setting is tricky. You want to pick a goal that is hard enough to reach and with enough obstacles that you will work hard to get there BUT that is attainable enough that you can get there. I chose 365 days straight, which is a bit hard-core. But that is me. My goal doesn’t work for everyone. You need to choose a goal that works for you.

TODAY’s ACTION:

Set a goal! If I recall correctly from different things I have read here and there, there are five things to remember when setting a goal. (1) Be specific with your goal, (2) make sure it is measurable, (3) attainable, (4) realistic and there is something else that I forget. Ha! Remember, I am just a mom, not a professional! (Oh yeah--it's (5) write it down/tell someone, make yourself accountable in some way.) But these first four items are what I unintentionally did when I set my goal. Yes, perhaps 365 days didn’t seem attainable or realistic BUT I believed in myself, I had a passion and deep-rooted desire to achieve the goal and that is a huge part of attainability. I also had a support network, which made realism possible. You too have the keys to realism and attainability already.

Use your trigger tracking sheet, or mental notes, to help set your goal. You know from the last almost two weeks how easy, hard, uplifting or not this Challenge is for you. Pick a goal that will push you but won’t break you. Here are some different ideas:

• 16 days (consistently or out of 30 days)
• 30 days (go beyond our 16 days)
• 30 moments
• 365 moments
• 3x a day instead of 12 times consistently for 16 days (Remember when you counted how many times you yelled a day? Choose something 75% less than current. Did you count that you yelled 12 times a day? Then aim for 3 or less. Are you already yelling less? Re-count #of times today and go lower than that!) 
• No yelling during a specific moment for 16 moments (did your trigger tracker show a constant bad moment? Make your goal about alleviating that moment, i.e. yelling at bedtime)
• 365 days but without re-setting, with pausing the counter on days you yell and re-starting it when you don’t yell
• 365 days straight

Make your goal real by sharing it in this blog post by the end of the weekend. This part is really important ;)

http://theorangerhino.com/30daychallenge/2013/03/09/day-13-whats-your-goal/

password: icanyellless

And remember,

“Only as high as I reach can I grow, only as far as I seek can I go, only as deep as I look can I see, only as much as I dream can I be.” ~Karen Ravn

DREAM BIG and don’t let anyone hold you back. If I didn’t dream big and dream of 365 days straight then I wouldn’t be here. If I listened to all those people who told me I was crazy, I wouldn’t be here. Reach high, we are all here to support you!

Happy Goal Setting!