Tuesday, April 9, 2013

Day #21: Focus on the Positive in Your Kids

From the Orange Rhino:

Good morning! I am having a "cold medicine hangover" and got a late start to the day. Again. ARGH! Anywho, when I did the 1st 30 Day Project, Day 22 was my last official day of my 365 day Challenge. I wrote this email to everyone and today I share it with you because well, I need to read it too. I have a lot of unexpected stress in my life right now. Couple that with not feeling well and I feel like I am on my last straw. BUT I will not yell. I can do this and so can you!

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If you had told me last winter that I would have lasted an entire year, I would haven’t believed you because up until this point in my life, I was a quitter. If there was a hard or uncomfortable path, I ran when it got bumpy. It was just easier this way. And there were LOTS--and I mean lots--of times I wanted to quit this past year. But I didn’t. I think one of the reasons I was able to keep going is that I learned to tell myself that I could do it, literally. Every moment I wanted to quit I told myself “no, you can do this.” I started believing a little bit more and when I doubted for a second, I reached out to a friend or my mom for support, I reached out to them to squelch that negative thought immediately.

It is important to know that before this Challenge, while I was a positive thinker per se, I never really embraced the power of positive thinking. But this year has proved it to work in lots of times. Interesting enough, when I started focusing on thinking more positively about the kids (instead of their little annoyances) I saw them in a different light and not yelling at them was easier.

TODAY’s THOUGHTS:
“A man is but the product of his thoughts, what he thinks, he becomes.” ~Gandhi

“When the world says, ‘Give up,’ Hope whispers, ‘Try it one more time.’” ~Author Unknown

“It’s not that I’m so smart, it’s just that I stay with problems longer.” ~Albert Einstein

TODAY’s ACTIONS:
1. Continue telling yourself you can do this, that you rock. If you hit a bump, tell yourself, "Okay, I yelled but this is what I learned; next time it will be easier. I can do this." Tell yourself whatever you need to become the product of your thoughts. And by telling, I don’t just mean thinking! I mean literally opening your mouth and saying it out loud!

2. Try one more time. And after that, try one more time. Keep trying. Whatever you do, get up, because you can do this. You can learn to yell less. Just stay with the problem.

3. Write in this blog post 3 positive things about your child. Seeing your child in more positive light will help you to see all the good behaviors and less apt to nit pick and yell at the small ones.  THIS REALLY HELPS!!!
password: icanyellless

TODAY’s TIP:
Take preventative measures! Catch your kids doing good things all day long and tell them. It is hard and takes a lot of remembering and energy but like all the popular parenting books say, it helps a lot!

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