Day #16: Get Excited!

From the Orange Rhino:

“Today is your day! Your mountain is waiting…so get on your way!”

~Dr. Seuss

Yes, let’s get on our way! Yes, learning to yell less and actually doing so probably feels like standing at the bottom of a huge mountain with a pit in your stomach of “ugh, there is no way I can do this!” But, believe it or not, you are ready and you have already achieved a lot. I once roughly outlined the 12 steps I took to stop yelling. You have already done 6 of them! You have:

(1) Acknowledged that you need to change, decided that you want to change, and fully committed to changing.
(2) Tracked your triggers
(3) Slowly started practicing
(4) Set a goal
(5) Created a support network and
(6) Shared your goal to create accountability

That’s a lot of work! Even if you didn’t have the chance to write in the blog posts or track your triggers, just reading the emails and thinking is work and you’ve done that. So please, be proud of what you have done so far!

TODAY’s THOUGHTs:

“Believe in yourself! Have faith in your abilities! Without a humble but reasonable confidence in your own powers you cannot be successful or happy.” ~Norman Vincent Peale

“Change your thoughts and you change your world.” ~Norman Vincent Peale

And a little Pointer Sisters too…

“I’m so excited…I am just can’t hide it!”

Yes, please, believe in yourself! As I said before, you have done so much work to get to this point. Have confidence. And when your thoughts start to change to negative, change them right back to positive. Think of your positive affirmations. Think about how great it will feel when you don’t yell. Think about how in the last week or so you practiced and succeeded. Think positive!

And while you are at, seriously get really excited! Today is YOUR DAY! I remember my first few days before I officially started counting days. I was so excited about changing, about accomplishing this great goal that no one thought I could, about finding a community of support that I was bouncing off the walls. Seriously. But that enthusiasm pushed me to succeed. I wanted nothing more than to succeed. And when I had an off day in the beginning, I thought of the moments when I had not yelled and I once again became excited because I knew I could do this not yelling thing.  You can too. You can do this!

TODAY’s ACTIONs:

1) Yell less!

2) Believe in yourself!

3) Get excited! Share in this blog post about your first day, focusing on how excited you were to yell less and how it felt. The more you talk about the excitement, the more it will grow! And if you didn’t yell less or meet your goal, write about how it WILL feel when you do. Picture not yelling and the kids' responses and write about that – that will also get you excited! http://theorangerhino.com/30daychallenge/2013/03/11/day-15-get-excited/

Password: icanyellless

TODAY’s TIP:

If you feel a yell coming, just turn away. Yell into a closet, a toilet, a fridge, a cabinet, your hands, whatever. Those things don’t have feelings! I spent my first couple of days, maybe even a week teaching myself to yell AWAY. Turn your body, let out the “ARGHHHHH” if you have to do. Just don’t let it be mean words at your kids. Once you have taught yourself to yell away and not say the mean words, it will be easier to teach yourself to not yell at all.

Good luck!

I’ll be thinking of you all day!