From the Orange Rhino:
Good morning!
SO, um wow. Today is day 29 which means tomorrow is Day 30,
the last day of this mini Challenge. So only 2 days left. There are two ways to
say that, ugh, only 2 days left I didn’t achieve what I wanted, or YES ONLY 2
days left. 2 days is a short time. I can do anything in a period of two days!
So lets look at it the latter way. I have pulled a lot of thoughts into this
email because I didn’t want to not share them. Enjoy?!
It has be said that I am a control freak and a
perfectionist! Well, I used to be and
that was certainly part of my yelling problem. I got all worked up when things
didn’t work out; I would get in a mood and then yell unnecessarily. I am
learning to let go. To accept that the kids’ beds are made the way they want
and that that is cool. To accept that I can’t do everything perfect and right
all the time. To accept that I can’t control when a baby gets sick or when I
get sick and that I just have to do my best at any given moment. To accept that
life can be hard sometimes and that I still need to show love to my babies even
when my world feels like it is crumbling (see tonight’s forthcoming post.) The
last two reasons are why this email has so many thoughts. I wanted to get one
out yesterday since we are so close to the end, I wanted to send it out and be
perfect in my vision. But sometimes, I have learned, I need to let go in order
to do better. My body needed to sleep in yesterday, I needed to be purely with
me. So I did. And it gave me strength to get through the day!
TODAY’s THOUGHTs:
“All the art of living lies in a fine mingling of letting go
and holding on.”
~ Havelock Ellis
~ Havelock Ellis
“Some of us think holding on makes us strong; but sometimes
it is letting go.” ~ Hermann Hess
I
LOVE THESE QUOTES. They are so true I have learned. Sometimes it is the
letting go that has helped me to get more - more love that is. And here
is a concept/word instead of a quote.
"Kaizen: Continuous Improvement."
This is a term I learned in undergraduate business school
way back when. It is a popular term in
the business world because the truth is, we are always improving, we must
always improve to stay at the head of our game. When we get comfortable, we
must push and seek improvement. When we are uncomfortable, we must push and
seek improvement. Sometimes the uncomfortable is what creates improvement.
I share this today to remind you that we are all works in
progress. Every day I learn something new about myself, my kids, my parenting
style. I am continually learning, and
continually tweaking my approach to improve myself. Do not give up on yourself
if you are not as far as long as you hoped to be. This is a process! These 28
days I know you have continually improved – even if it as simple as your
awareness is higher.
TODAY’s ACTIONs:
1. Even if you aren’t a control freak like me (but really trying to be
less so!), ask yourself, is there something you can let go of to be
happier? To yell less? Perhaps it is forgiving someone? Perhaps it is letting
go of 1 rule because you have 10 already? Perhaps it is letting go of
nitpicking how things are cleaned up, as long as they are?
Share your Letting Go in this blog post:
password: icanyellless
2. Let go of past yells. I have said it before but I can’t say
it enough. Holding on to feeling angry that you yelled when you didn’t want to
won’t do you any good. Let it go. Focus on one moment at a time! You can do
this!!!
3. Think of ALL the progress you have made. Remind yourself that this is a process! Do not give up!
TODAY’s TIP:
When you are upset about a kid’s mess (or anything that in the big picture is okay to let go of) and you want to scream, just starting singing “Letting it go, Letting it go.” Maybe even turn it into a dance party. Exercise is great for calming down!
When you are upset about a kid’s mess (or anything that in the big picture is okay to let go of) and you want to scream, just starting singing “Letting it go, Letting it go.” Maybe even turn it into a dance party. Exercise is great for calming down!
Have a good day! Stomp on!
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