Good morning! So much I want to share today but I am going
to re-iterate a recent message. Keep asking yourself WHY? Why are you not
yelling, why are you yelling? I know these questions are tedious, annoying and
perhaps uncomfortable. I hate digging deep; it can feel really ugly. But when I
do, it helps me to move forward and that feels beautiful.
So yesterday I was at the Occupational Therapist's for one of
my sons. I was sharing how we, yes we, are just having a terrible go at it and
that I don’t know what else to do to help him. She told me that I needed to get
back to the basics, to continue doing abc and to start doing xyz. Which got me
thinking about a tool I learned on my first job (and also got me thinking, "Shoot,
there is more I need to remember to do first thing in the morning? Crap.") But
this tool I learned makes this simplified, I think…
At work, we were on an off site talking about plans for the
next year and how to get there. The quote and actions from that day, what
twelve years ago, have stuck with me and I call on them quite frequently. I
hope they stick with you too; they are powerful and apply to so many different
situations.
TODAY’s THOUGHTs:
“Be the change. It can be hard, it can be uncomfortable, but
it often is a chance worth taking.” ~ one of my many leaders
Yes. Be the change! It is easy to hope for things around us
to change; it is hard to sometimes motivate and actually change ourselves!
And another favorite version:
“Be the change you want to see in the world.” ~Gandhi.
TODAY’s ACTIONS:
1. In the following blog post, write a sentence for each of
these words in relation to how you are going to yell less, how you are going to
change. Start. Stop. Continue.
Example:
Stop (eventually, it’s a process!): I will stop trying to be
perfect. It stresses me out and makes it hard to stay calm.
Start: Putting out lunch bags the night before so I don’t
rush in the morning.
Continue: I will continue to acknowledge when I can tell my issues are impacting how I act towards my boys.
Continue: I will continue to acknowledge when I can tell my issues are impacting how I act towards my boys.
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2. Continue to ask yourself why and post on this blog post if
you haven’t.
3. Tell yourself you are doing a great job. Seriously. My heart
breaks when I read that someone is mad at themselves for yelling because I have
been there. I beat myself up so much in the beginning when I yelled after going
8 days straight. I don’t wish that for anyone. This is a PROCESS. It takes
time. It isn’t about being perfect, it is about learning, growing, and
eventually yelling less. Take this as seriously as you want, but not so much so
that you beat yourself up…that will just make it harder!!!
Keep it up and Have a Great Day!
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